I was lying on the beach the other day (yes, from time to time, I lead a charmed life), when the woman next to me began ranting that we were stealing the shade from her umbrella. While what I wanted to do was either explain to her that-
A. one cannot claim ownership of an area due to the absence of sun
B. tell her to GFY
-instead I just moved my chair. Because, not only was her senselessness not worth my time, but I realized that I just didn’t care. Not only about “her” shade, but about most things. Don’t get me wrong. There is quite a lot that matters to me. Believe me, if something is close to my heart, I love fiercely and fight tirelessly. But the fact of the matter is that the things that aren’t that important no longer raise my temperature. I don’t sweat the small stuff. I wasn’t always this way though. It took me a long time to get here. I used to get caught up in everything. Literally. Traffic, the line at Starbucks, whatever…I endowed the mundane with a level of emotion that should only be reserved for our next of kin, notable charities and really good movies. Then I had a rough go of it. Where a couple of things happened that actually were important, that did merit dramatic responses. Suddenly, everything else paled in comparison. All the minutiae I used to get so worked up over seemed trivial. And I let all of those little things go. I dropped being so fearful, so anxious, so tense. Perhaps for the first time ever, I felt free. That freedom has translated itself across all facets of my life, both big and small. Because what have I got to lose? When you’ve lost the big things, all the little things are just white noise. Sure, I still hold on to things; but shade isn’t one of them.
Michelle Mason cardigan (similar $, similar $$$), T by Alexander Wang silk gown (similar $, similar $$$), Manolo Blahnik suede pumps, Artelier World Cuff, XIV Karats necklace (similar $$$$), Seoul Little “Los Angeles” necklace, Catbird, XIV Karats and ginette_ny rings (similar), MAC lipstick in Lady Danger
Photos by Michele LoBosco